Chris and J usually talk about women’s sexuality with the hope of helping men understand their wives. But today, we discuss what women don’t understand about men’s sexuality.
Listen to the Podcast
Resources
- Episode 12: Guy Talk – The Importance of Sex – Sex Chat for Christian Wives
- Episode 14: Guy Talk – A Wife’s Beauty – Sex Chat for Christian Wives
- Episode 16: Guy Talk – Men’s Sexuality – Sex Chat for Christian Wives
- Ten Lies Wives Believe about Sex (And Ten Truths Husbands Want You To Know) – Hot, Holy & Humorous – guest post by Scott Means
- You Would If You Loved Me! – Hot, Holy & Humorous – guest post by Paul Byerly
- Love Your Man: Should Your Husband’s Sexuality Be Like Yours? – The Forgiven Wife
This Week’s Takeaway
Don’t assume your wife understands your sexuality. Rather, when she seems confused or asks questions about why you do what you do or feel what you feel, take time to explain how your sexuality works.
Ladies -Than you for your ministry, I have to say there seemed to be a bit of incredulity in the sound of your voices in your description of men’s sexuality. You expressed your belief, but not your understanding. And your belief sounded like concession not love. It was only when husband after husband told you that you finally believed the intimacy/emotional connection for the man. If this is how it is with 2 wives who DO meet their husband’s sexual needs, it leaves little hope for the rest of us. I am sure you do not realize how this discussion came across. However, It could be just me and I could have completely misinterpreted this. . Frankly, my wife and I, who are celebrating 40 years married on 6/20/2022, always understood our mutual obligation to each other sexually. We were married at 22 and 23. My wife described when a husband neglects making love to his wife as cruelty. The same would be for the wife. My wife and I would never do that to each other. Hence, my constant surprise on how deep the marital sexless problem is in the church and in our society in general. . Thank you for your ministry.
I don’t find it incredulous, but I know many women who do because they’ve been primed in nearly every way possible to believe that a drive for sex is purely physical. We are trying to correct that misunderstanding! ~ J
Frankly I have little hope of a satisfying sex life, my wife will not tell me the reason or doesn’t know herself. It’s very hard to stay in this type of situation at my age but I have little ones so I really don’t see any options. Except just try to control the resentment I have for her and keep the peace.
It’s sad that you feel little hope. I pray that your wife will come to better understand what’s happening and share with you. ~ J