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Insight and support for Christian husbands
Insight and support for Christian husbands
The alien’s husband here. Yep, this is def a huge problem for us, word for word. Hard to engage in convo when the return dialogue begins with “No,…” and then a correction or negative or a dismissive statement. Or do I need to hear every word of every conversation you had at work? Especially when it deals with topics I know little about. I don’t engage anymore because it’s ALWAYS adversarial and I just. Don’t. Wanna. Deal. Anymore. Why would I want to blissfully engage and be an active and compassionate listener and then wait 3 weeks for a disengaged, sterile, clumsy, and passionless 5 minutes (her limit not mine).
I want to have wonderful talks but I don’t need to be directed, corrected, or told what I should do, think, believe, act on.
Why do I need to do that to get some decent sex? I now communicate the way she… well, it’s only getting worse.
Oftentimes, marriage experts will say that the key to a successful relationship is communication…and I think, Maybe. It could be other stuff—disrespect, abuse, betrayal—causing issues, and better communication doesn’t fix everything. But sometimes communication skills are exactly what’s needed! It sounds like you and your wife just do not view conversation the same way, and it’s likely exhausting for both of you. I do wonder how y’all talked when you were dating/courting… Maybe you could find some resources about better communication? There are some great marriage resources for that. Just a thought! ~ J